Some toddlers are so comfortable with life in their own little worlds that they resist every attempt at potty training. As a result, it’s only natural for parents to get frustrated and feel alone in a world where every other child except theirs seems to be potty trained. Sound familiar? Here are five tips for potty training a reluctant child.
If you’re a dad potty training your kid, then you’ve probably read a lot of literature about what products and supplies you’ll need. However, the best potty training toolbox is still incomplete because there are some things that no one ever told you to buy.
These are the small items that do heavy lifting, and they range from making your kids feel more responsible to simply helping you get back to sleep quicker after your kid has an accident in the middle of the night.
Keep reading to discover four potty training supplies no one warns you about!
My wife and I recently returned from a long vacation with our two young children. I use the word “vacation” lightly, though. As any parent knows, traveling with a child of any age can be tiring and stressful and yet, relaxing at the same time (usually when the kids are asleep).
Vacations and travel also present challenges for potty training. There are new and exciting things to see and do, bathrooms are not always nearby (if we even know where one is), and normal routines get thrown out the window. Thankfully, my almost 5-year-old daughter made it through our 10-day trip without an accident, but there were some close moments.
The other morning my wife and I discussed our daughter’s potty training, particularly whether or not she should wear a different type of diaper while sleeping at night. My daughter turns five in a few weeks, and we have been potty training her – in some way or another – for nearly half her life at this point.
It got me to wondering if potty training would ever end, especially since my wife and I will soon decide when to start training our two-year-old son.
When my son is fully potty trained – including at night time – it is likely my wife, and I will have spent more than five years with potty training in its various phases. That is a long time and underscores the long-term fight that potty training can be.
Learning to control the bladder and bowels is a significant rite of passage that we all embark on during the toddler years. While this pilgrimage is universal, the way it is done varies significantly across cultures and throughout time. Potty training rites, today, look completely different than they did in earlier centuries. In fact, kids today take nearly twice as long to potty train as kids fifty years ago, which is likely because modern parents tend to let their child take the lead.
The start of toilet training means that your child has to adjust to life without a diaper, and learn go to the bathroom whenever they feel the urge. You can make this transition easier for your child by preparing them for the different activities associated with toilet training. But, before you begin, The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends assessing your child’s readiness for toilet training. Ready or Not Timing is important for toilet training; however, your child may not be ready at the same time as other children. You need to rely on your child to determine readiness for this venture.
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The methods for teaching toddlers the skill using the toilet have changed over time. When parents forced training on children during the first half of the twentieth century, failures of that approach led experts to develop alternatives.
Pediatrician Dr. T. Berry Brazelton developed his own child-centered, slower-paced potty training method over years working with children and their parents. In 1962, the medical journal Pediatrics published the successful results of a study he did using this technique with his patients. In 2004, he published “Toilet Training the Brazelton Way.”
The book covers Brazelton’s toilet training in great detail and encourages a child to set the pace, encouraging her to want to use the toilet. This way, she will not get angry and oppositional because her parents are trying to force her.
There is no doubt that potty training can be a challenging and frustrating time for parents and toddlers alike. Below are eight potty training books we recommend for parents and toddlers.
“Toilet Training in Less Than a Day,” by Nathan H. Azrin, PhD and Richard M. Foxx, PhD, hit bookstands in 1974. Forty plus years later, it is still in print, and the method has worked for millions of children.
Azrin and Foxx, like others, noted that forcing children to sit on the potty (toilet) until they finally used it was an ineffective training method.
The method they developed involves teaching the child to toilet (urinate in the potty) through repetition. There is more to it, including lots of praise, as well as verbal disapproval and corrective action when needed.